Loving with an open hand

Consider an airport. It cannot choose to only accept arrivals and not departures; there are valid times for travel in both directions. We cannot force people to stay any longer than we can force time to stand still. We cannot manipulate, coerce, charm or trap gifts to last forever.

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Can you help a rudder out?

It is not impossible to change course but patterns are hard to break. It is, however, important to remember that we are to be the captains of our ships. It is our responsibility to keep our hand on the wheel and turn it to change the angle to alter the direction of our lives when we realize we are headed towards an “iceberg.”

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We need all the seasons

One season inevitably leads to another but thinking that we will always be in the same season with the same people is a sure fire way to be disappointed. Sometimes you cannot appreciate the mountaintop until you have walked through the valley. Rock bottom has built more heroes that privilege.

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Locked up without being locked up

I believe that there are one of two prisons that each of us have done hard time in – the prison of what others think about us and the penitentiary of being on lockdown to the picture in our minds of what we thought our lives are supposed to look like.

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Busy can leave you feeling buried

So, why are we so busy? Why are we filling every waking moment with something? Why are we running ourselves ragged? Perhaps we view our busyness as a badge of honor and trendy status symbol – a way to show our value, importance, or worth in this fast-paced society in which we live.

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The Pearl Necklace

We stay stuck in an old story rather than embrace a new truth. Many choose a familiar misery over a foreign happiness. We’ve hit the repeat button in our minds long after the song has stopped playing.

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Seed. Time. Harvest

Don’t settle for less just because it’s available. The compromises we make become the life we settle for. If you forfeit the process, you forfeit the promise.

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Suffering in Silence

If you keep trying to impress people, you will impress them right into your own depression - trying to climb out of a pit of what people see. Life is too short to worry about what people who exist in a free app in your phone think of you. The price of acceptance is too high if it costs who you are.

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We've all got glitches

Perhaps there is something that has transpired in your life – a choice that did not turn out like you hoped or a life altering event that you had no control over – that has you feeling like you now have some sort of glitch. You have a scar. You have something that just gnaws on you and on your mind.

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Confidants, Constituents, and Comrades

If you want to identify who is really for you, they’ll mourn when you mourn and rejoice when you rejoice. Watch their reaction when you share good news. If they are not happy for you, stop talking. Most people aren’t out to get you. However, when you realize who is for you versus who is with you, you’ll see your peace increase!

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Life lessons from a bag of popcorn

Have you stopped to consider that the process you may be right in the middle of – the one where it feels and looks like nothing is happening, where nothing is changing – could actually be the point right before transformation begins to happen?

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Your story could be the key...

Friend, your story could be the key that unlocks someone else’s prison. Other people can find healing in your wounds. Your greatest life messages and most effective testimony will come out of your deepest hurts.

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We steer where we stare

Isn’t it unreal how quickly our thoughts can derail us and get our emotions worked up into a frenzy? It happens to all of us. We suddenly realize what we’re thinking and wonder, Wait, how did I work myself into such a state? Maybe you’re angry again. Frustrated, lonely, disillusioned, heartbroken, anxious, fearful, defeated.

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The houses we build

Have you ever built something that you never wanted to out of guilt? Obligation? Shame? Pressure? Impatience? Trying to please someone? Then one day, you just snap. You realize that you are just not happy and maybe even miserable. All hands should be raised because we all have. There is good news, though.

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We’re only attached to what we hold on to

How many times have we been a resident of a prison that we ourselves have created? How many hurts, pains, and rejections have we carried with us for years? How much poison of unforgiveness and bitterness have we drank, hoping it will hurt someone else?

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We can run but we can’t hide

We tuck ourselves away in isolation to not be seen, to not have to deal, to not have to confront a situation, to not face the consequences of our past, to not make a decision and we sit hoping and wishing that we can just wait it out. The thing of it is though, we can run but we cannot truly hide – from ourselves.

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Clean out the cobwebs or kill the spider?

You and I can trick people into believing that we’re better than we are with slick language, cleverly practiced clichés, and the biggest smile. The worst kind of deception is self-deception, though. This is when the lies that we’ve been telling have become almost second nature that we start tricking ourselves into believing them.

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Who's In Your Corner?

The greatest pain and pleasure you will experience in your life will be in the context of relationship. Someone who is meant to be in your corner, you will never have to beg them to be there or to stay. Let the people who naturally gravitate to you, enjoy who you are.

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